I am definitely a black and white person. I love practicality. For me it has always been easy to know (notice I said KNOW and not DO) the difference between right and wrong. I like it that way - no grey areas in my life. Either do it or don't do it. Say it or don't say it. Think it or don't think it. You know, choose to do what is right. I have always thought of it as a gift. Lately though, I have been realizing that being so pragmatic can have a downside too. For instance, when you are such a black and white person and you are dealing with people who tend to be more of an abstract thinker type, there can be problems. I can find myself becoming impatient with my more theoretical friends as they take all kinds of time to reason all the different angles of a situation out. "For crying out loud, you know you will come to the same conclusion as me eventually, so let's get on with it!" I want to shout. Also, I fear that my realistic approach to life can appear to be arrogant and maybe a bit pompous to others who like to think things through. And it disturbs me a little bit, well, okay, more than a little bit to know that some definitions of pragmatic include hard-headed and hard-nosed. Surely, people don't see ME that way! Another negative aspect to being such a black and white person is that I can tend to make impulsive decisions. Not that it's always a bad thing - it saves me alot of time, but maybe once in a while it would be a better idea to think things through a little bit.
I don't know - this is all causing me to spend more time than I like to think hard about something! But I am coming to realize that I need to sort this out. I don't want to be a hard head! I want to be patient and gentle and kind and loving. I think you can be a black and white person and still have these qualities but I probably have to work harder at it then my more conceptual counterparts. So the question remains: Am I a