Wednesday, November 12, 2008

What Do You Do?

Sometimes life throws us curve balls. I'm trying to work through one of those right now in my life. I can't really talk about it right now. Not because it's a secret, but because it's still too difficult for me to think about - and I'm not ready to put words to my feelings yet.

Anyway - I thought I would ask you. What do you when intense emotion threatens to overtake your life? How do you handle heartache?

Trusting in God is not the answer I'm looking for - because I do. And I truly believe that ultimately His plan is always better than mine. But that doesn't mean that we don't experience pain and heartache in the process.

So -what practical things do you do when you are hurting?

13 comments:

Mrs. Julie Fink said...

I sew and sing! And visit with people that have positive things going on in their lives at that moment.

Michelle said...

I'm sorry you're going through a tough time right now. I usually let myself have a good cry.

Karen said...

I'm so sorry that you are hurting, Robin. I found myself going through a struggle last week. I usually talk to a good friend about what is going on, and then I throw myself into a project. Something phsyical, like cleaning a closet, raking leaves. I try to stay away from the place where I just replay the scenario over and over in my head. But it's hard to do.

Becky said...

Oh, Robin! I am so very sorry you are hurting.

God, please wrap your loving arms around my friend and give her comfort. Wrap her in that peace that passes understanding. Amen.

I journal to get out my emotions. It makes me feel less of a victim. I "talk" to those who are hurting me, without them hearing for real. It helps me to validate my feelings and get them out, without saying them out loud.

I also take time for myself. I will hide in a hot bath, or even go for a long drive (7 hours to see my mom), just to be by myself.

I sure hope you will find that peace. I'll be praying.

blue eyes said...

I listen to the song "Hold" by Superchick. It's on my Myspace, Have a listen!

April

Dawn said...

It's hard to even think of what I do, since we've been through several big disappointments and crises in the last few years. But I know I cry. I write. I hide in a good book. My job kept me sane in the worst of it - I didn't have time to think about the other junk. I'm sorry life has thrown you one of those nasty curve balls. If Christians were immune from trouble, then people would become Christians just to escape trouble!

gail@more than a song said...

I'm sorry you're going through that right now. I usually cry too, read a lot because I love to escape in a book. Sometimes I like to get away by myself to shop or something too. If I'm really down I have to make sure I walk or do something physical and get outside for sunshine...I think light helps me feel better.

(oh the word verification thing for me right now, bless..how cool. I pray the Lord's blessings on you)

Truth4thejourney said...

This doesn't sound like a good place to be in, I'm sorry you're there. I agree with all of the advice you've been given. Pray, talk to a friend, find a favorite song. If all of that seems to fail, get away. I just had some emotional issues that were overwhelming me so my hubby and I just went to the beach for 6 days without the kids. It has been very relaxing and I've been able to really connect with God and I see things more clearly now.

God Bless as you sort through all of this.

Love,
Sonya

Lisa B. said...

I just try to think about it, break it down, disect it and try to understand it, just piece by piece, not all at once. Once I have done that, then I try to accept it or change it. It depends on what it is. I am always amazed at what I have the power to change or influence to change. I have found that I myself don't change very easily....but sometimes I have to do that too. Hope it helps. :) Let me know if you need to talk. I am a good listener.

Mishel said...

Robin,
I'm sorry for whatever is causing you heart to hurt so...

When I'm hurting I get it all out in the pages of my journal. I call my bestest girlfriend (who won't just give me pat answers, but will truly listen and pray). I get outside, go for walks--this helps to clear my mind and pray/think more clearly.

Praying for you friend...

Leah in Iowa said...

It's never easy to wade through the hard times. I'm finding myself in one (a very difficult one) this last week, too. So know you're not alone!

I guess I'd have to say I picked up the phone and called a friend pretty much right away. Knowing one other person knew all the details and was helping me shoulder the pain and disappointment was extremely helpful. She also prayed with me, and has continued to this week.

But sometimes I "hole up" and get withdrawn - which is usually never a good thing. We weren't created to be alone. Yet I'll lose myself in a project, or a good book, or just take a TylenolPM and try to go to bed early. (Just being real here!)

I'll keep you in my prayers! I just stopped over to check out your Giving Thanks list. God knew I needed to be here today!

~ Leah

Angie said...

Robin, I don't know how practical it is...but...I cry. I cry....PRAY...talk loud LOUD to God...and do major MAJOR housework. All at the same time.
I read...I contemplate...I spend time alone with HIM. AND He brings me to a place that I can relax my shoulders and feel His presence. Sometimes it takes a while....but eventually, we get there.

I love you dear heart. I will pray.

Sweet Mummy said...

We've been through a raft of intense emotions and terrible heartache in the last 9 months... I never seem to deal with each wave of emotion the same way I did the one before it. I do cry, and I have cried a lot of tears recently. I write like crazy (journalling, blogging - even if it's not about that particular thing), and usually find a little project to work on with my hands (sewing or other crafty thing). With the first big wave of emotion I found myself walking a lot. I would say, "I'm not going to get mad, I'm going for a walk" and I'd just walk it out until I didn't feel so angry. I walked a LOT!!!!

So sorry that something is not at a good spot for you right now. I've been there, too!